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desertjoe 
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Posted: 11 Mar 2021 at 3:33am |
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Her new boyfriend is wanting more money. Leon
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That right there is very possible, Leon,,,,,, 
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LeonR2013
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Posted: 10 Mar 2021 at 10:06pm |
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Her new boyfriend is wanting more money. Leon
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Posted: 10 Mar 2021 at 9:39pm |
Keep your head up, be strong, God wont give you more than you can handle. The link below should add a chuckle to your day https://youtu.be/atBg9zLI2bA
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Posted: 10 Mar 2021 at 5:17pm |
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She got the gold mine and I got the shaft.
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Posted: 10 Mar 2021 at 8:30am |
Another request to lighten the mood on this.Been through this myself,hang in there bud,there are better days ahead when this is over. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lF26inivm2I
Edited by ac45dave - 10 Mar 2021 at 8:33am
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Posted: 09 Mar 2021 at 10:51pm |
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Prayers coming from here too Kurt. It is not a thing I'd wish on anybody, the pain, the agony, the WTH..........but in the end you'll feel SO much better and free again. Don't wait around, get it done. Follow your heart and use your head. Your heart is the farmer in you. Damn city women just don't understand.
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Posted: 08 Mar 2021 at 11:07pm |
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if she's crying for more money now....you'll never have enough! prayers for you on this.
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Posted: 08 Mar 2021 at 9:59am |
Yes Prayers headed your way
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Posted: 08 Mar 2021 at 5:23am |
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I’m gonna second what Hubert says above.
Prayers headed out to you both.
Stay strong and keep faith.
The road may have a few bumps but you’ll make it through.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 9:06pm |
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Kurt, just want to let you know that you are not alone in this. I and many others on this Forum are praying for you. This is a tough situation but look to the Lord for wisdom and guidance on what to do. With her attitude I personally think cutting your losses is the better option. Also I think that by moving out she has given you a bit of an advantage.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 8:46pm |
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You are getting off at the right station Kurt before the 'train wreck'.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 6:58pm |
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Sorry for your situation Kurt. I pray that you and your wife can work things out. Man, marriage is hard. My bride and I celebrated our 25th anniversary this past June and to be honest, more often than not, we are a freaking dumpster fire. But, we keep going. The band Casting Crowns has a song called Broken Together that kind of describes our situation. I'll try and post the link. Hope this helps.
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She’s only been gone 2 days and on me to get my phone changed over to my own, or give her the phone back! I’m like hello you left on Friday and how do you think I’m gonna get to town and get my own phone line, it’s not like I left the farm and the work disappeared!
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 6:52pm |
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Well, you could stay at the farm, rent out the ground, be a land lord, and get a full time job............ BUTT... would she be happy then ? Im guessing NO . |
You know I gave up all rented ground and even rented out the back half of the farm for the last 3 years as a way to calm her down before already. Just kept enough for the feeding the calves. 2 years ago was a bad year for straw so you know it we needed to buy some and it was like I was spending her money to keep the calves bedded down. So I cut back on calves so then we could travel more and went for a week to Kentucky. Yet not enough money for her new house!
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 5:51pm |
modirt wrote:
Gene Watson......."Fourteen Caret Mind".
Concept is an old one......subject of songs, movies and was a central theme in many old TV westerns. Best to cut your losses.
Good news is the right partner is out there....you just have not found her yet.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 11:56am |
Sounds just like my EX. Hated the farm . I had to buy my land back from her. That was 15 years ago. I am so happy now even though it was expensive.
I would open the door for her and I would file for divorce first.
Been there, good luck
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 11:54am |
A little divorce humor, There was a good size grain farmer and the family did some tractor pulling with a couple different vehicles, so his wife want a divorce. They had 2 comparable parcels of land he tells her she can take her pick of either one as there was a $1,000,000 borrowed against each one, this was in the 1980's so the million seemed like a little more money then, She could have her half.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 11:47am |
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I'm also taking a trip down this road,,the last 15-20 years we have just been roommates, and nothing more,we got to where we done nothing together, including huggy/kissy she now lives down the road....no papers worked up yet, but more than likely will be eventually.. |
Get it done! A friend never bothered to and he got took for a ride when he finally had to get it done. Even tho they'd been apart about 25 years, she got half of everything, including his retirement! I was totally shocked that a person would do that, but that's life. My two were very amicable and everything went smooth, I hope you can too!
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 11:03am |
Sorry for your situation Kurt. I pray that you and your wife can work things out. Man, marriage is hard. My bride and I celebrated our 25th anniversary this past June and to be honest, more often than not, we are a freaking dumpster fire. But, we keep going. The band Casting Crowns has a song called Broken Together that kind of describes our situation. I'll try and post the link. Hope this helps.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 9:27am |
Gene Watson......."Fourteen Caret Mind".
Concept is an old one......subject of songs, movies and was a central theme in many old TV westerns. Best to cut your losses.
Good news is the right partner is out there....you just have not found her yet.
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 7:12am |
hmm, get it done PDQ otherwise the only winners will be the lawyers....... you get all the pain, they get all YOUR money
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 6:52am |
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Been there done that for the exact same reasons. You already got the best advice get her name off every credit card you can. She sounds like she doesn't know what will make her happy. Lawyers will try to make it nasty. I would try to come with a settlement through divorce mediation if you can do that in Wisconsin
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 6:21am |
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GREAt ! In that case, her atty will know if he don't act accordingly I got a piece of lead waiting for him
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 4:40am |
best legal advice I can give, is to not ask for legal advice, over the home computer. Her atty will do a search, to see what you have been up to here, and on other sites, so if the time comes, everything said here, will be part of the record...
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Posted: 07 Mar 2021 at 4:38am |
Had a friend that had a 600 acre family farm. Sold it all off gradually to try and make her happy with money. She's bailed when it ran out and he's in bad health because the stress ate him alive. Best of luck in what you choose to do.
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 9:29pm |
Man that sucks! Sorry to hear of your troubles Kurt! The guys on here have voiced their opinions but keep in mind that your own take on the situation is blinded by your love for her! Even loving her partially will not allow you to see the situation from an independent 3rd party point of view.
You need to confide in someone you trust, an unbiased 3rd party, who has known you since before you met your wife and ask them to give you their honest take on the situation. They will know the situation, you, and her, better than we do! As humans, when we are in love, we cannot see the whole picture because our personal feelings get in the way of making decisions that otherwise would be based on facts and logic.
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 9:05pm |
OK, we all probably know the answer to this but....
re: I don’t make enough money for her needs and wants!
Put the 'shoe on the other foot'.
What would she say if you said,'honey YOU need to pay for the barn repairs cause the big bull got upset'. Would SHE actually PAY the bill ?
Also take pictures with date in them of everything,every room, every angle, NOW...for future reference. I've found the better prepared I was for a 'battle', I never HAD to go to battle.
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 8:52pm |
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I have been down that road. Broke my heart at the time. One of the best things to ever happen once a little time went by. I couldn't imagine being married to her at this point in my life. The drama that followed her wasn't worth it. Got Hannah 21 years now , best move I ever made. Way better than I deserve and enjoys most everything I do. We are like Peas and Carrots! Prayers for you, it gets easier as time goes on.God Bless!
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 8:30pm |
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I'm also taking a trip down this road,,the last 15-20 years we have just been roommates, and nothing more,we got to where we done nothing together, including huggy/kissy she now lives down the road....no papers worked up yet, but more than likely will be eventually..
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 8:26pm |
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Kurt, some very good advice has been posted already. Another thing to keep in mind is that she is not the only one that needs to be happy, your welfare needs to be taken into consideration also. Money can not make you happy, happiness is a product of joy and peace within yourself. As others have already said - cut your losses asap and find someone who is willing to treat marriage as a partnership. The farm is your heritage and no amount of money can replace that.
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Posted: 06 Mar 2021 at 8:19pm |
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Well, you could stay at the farm, rent out the ground, be a land lord, and get a full time job............ BUTT... would she be happy then ? Im guessing NO .
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