Ugh my wife

Don’t know where they get their ideas from but geez! So my wife tells me after all most 6 years of being married and being together more than 7.5 years that she is moving out since I won’t sell the farm or some of the land or quit farming raising Holstein bull calves and quit my off farm part time job and get a full time job or marriage is over! I don’t make enough money for her needs and wants! Even though bills do get paid and such but not enough money to build her a new house! I worked every single to get where I am since I can remember. It’s easy for her to say sell because none of this is hers family’s! I’m a proud 3rd generation on this farm! It’s hard to hear from time to time that oh you got no money compared to other 39 year olds! As she works investments and sees 1st hand what cash some have, while not seeing if they own any property or land! I guess I’m just lost as she will never understand a farmer and I probably won’t ever understand city people.

Keeping you in prayers as you go the next steps ... of convinceing her you are rich ... OR ? well the down side... One of my older brothers had a first wife who was always wanting more, also ended the marriage.  He now has a lovely bride and they are old together ... keep your head up with  your principles.

If it takes two paychecks to sassyfiher id say she needs another job.

My wife looking over my shoulder said:  "You picked her, man"  She also says; #1 let her go #2 take future prospects to a tractor pull and the one that says "that looks like fun, can I do that" and wants her own tractor is a keeper 

Edited by PaulB - 06 Mar 2021 at 5:06pm

Johns right , send her down the road and fast , lifes to short to not be happy - and she already told you how she feels, theres plenty of good ole fashion country gals around yet , life always falls into place

Live the great design EVERY Day Kurt, stick to your guns as to living YOUR Life as can.  Prayers up from here gets better not worse.

Well, you could stay at the farm, rent out the ground, be a land lord, and get a full time job............ BUTT... would she be happy then ?  Im guessing NO .

I'm also taking a trip down this road,,the last 15-20 years we have just been roommates, and nothing more,we got to where we done nothing together, including huggy/kissy she now lives down the road....no papers worked up yet, but more than likely will be eventually..

GREAt ! In that case, her atty will know if he don't act accordingly I got a piece of lead waiting for him

Sorry for your situation Kurt. I pray that you and your wife can work things out. Man, marriage is hard. My bride and I celebrated our 25th anniversary this past June and to be honest, more often than not, we are a freaking dumpster fire. But, we keep going. The band Casting Crowns has a song called Broken Together that kind of describes our situation. I'll try and post the link. Hope this helps.

A little divorce humor, There was a good size grain farmer and the family did some tractor pulling with a couple different vehicles, so his wife want a divorce. They had 2 comparable parcels of land he tells her she can take her pick of either one as there was a $1,000,000 borrowed against each one, this was in the 1980's so the million seemed like a little more money then, She could have her half.

modirt wrote: Gene Watson......."Fourteen Caret Mind". Concept is an old one......subject of songs, movies and was a central theme in many old TV westerns. Best to cut your losses. Good news is the right partner is out there....you just have not found her yet.