Confused or misled kids?

Have a Nephew, smart kid great wife AWESOME little collection of rugrats!! He and I were speaking of the family and he informed me was getting himself fixed, seems every time taps the wife FOOM Pregnant!! She took Birth Control as a young woman but stopped directly as she readied to walk down the aisle and remains OFF the Pill. Currently have three ADORABLE children and DONE!, That leads on to the next aspect of which I titled this.

A Cousin of the Wife's son and Daughter In Law have been 'TRYING' to make a baby for two years, we all figured there was a problem with one or the other's reproductive system as the way they spoke was just not happening as "hard" as they were trying. So they decided to go to In Vitro Fertilization she being "Desperate" to make a new life. The expense is INCREDIBLE and may be flushing down their toilet as she has just as got a load of her own eggs developed the Flu and will likely have to start all over as they will not harvest with her ill.


Then came a few polite and seemingly innocent questions from others as her Mother In Law as to the methods they had tried before while we were visiting and trying to console her. The young lady to me is VERY confused and had been led down some primrose path by either her own misconceptions or teachings from someone too stupid to believe. It was HER understanding all she had to do was stop taking Birth Control she used for hormone control(For weight control) and she would just be fertile and be pregnant. She went on as to being On the Pill as they wed, dropping the pill for a few weeks and being 'Sexually Active' a whole THREE TIMES in a month when that did not work she went BACK ON the pill and resumed her exercise regimen to repeat that scenario a few times over the course of two years. She as to not being able to harvest eggs was Speaking of RESUMING Birth Control Pills to get her weight back under control! The discussion became heated as to 'Frequency' and stopping the BC Pills for a Longer period of time but this intelligent and attractive young woman had some faulted ideology planted in her head and will not listen.


I feel sorry for her husband in two ways, one limited sexual activity(if at all) and two the expenses to feed the misconceptions this little girl in a woman's body has. I feel sorry for her in coming to some faulted conclusions of how the Pill works and how her as well her husbands bodies work. We were told YEARS ago frequency(3-4 times per WEEK minimum was spoken and my honey ignored) and being off the Pill for good(my honey also ignored) was the best choice to make children, my wife also followed the philosophy this young woman has. The misconception of once to twice a month is NOT frequent as well going on and off the pill repeatedly is not wise or helping. Where did these ideologies come from?

Edited by DMiller - 01 Feb 2019 at 6:41am

You bring up quite the topics for a tractor forum. 

My little brother and I BOTH were 'Pill' babies. Doc told Mom years ago if making eggs and stimulated enough would still drop one or more then is ALL in nature's court. And as we had been there(BTW I did NOT pose ANY questions to her, My wife did that) for the questions the young lady was very divisive as to answers, her Hubby was doing the background Eye rolls as to Not quite accurate or maybe even Not quite truthful. I dare say this is not looking good for them as she is going to extremes to get what she desires. I also suspect he will not be quite so accepted AFTER she does get pregnant so you may be correct in the Bid 'D' point.

Sorry 'T', this is the Varmints page!!

Edited by DMiller - 01 Feb 2019 at 9:02am

DMiller wrote: My little brother and I BOTH were 'Pill' babies. Doc told Mom years ago if making eggs and stimulated enough would still drop one or more then is ALL in nature's court. And as we had been there(BTW I did NOT pose ANY questions to her, My wife did that) for the questions the young lady was very divisive as to answers, her Hubby was doing the background Eye rolls as to Not quite accurate or maybe even Not quite truthful. I dare say this is not looking good for them as she is going to extremes to get what she desires. I also suspect he will not be quite so accepted AFTER she does get pregnant so you may be correct in the Bid 'D' point. Sorry 'T', this is the Varmints page!!

Well my dad always joked, about the doc must have just bought a new car and needed your business to make the payment. Sounds like this doc is "practicing" in ways to put more money in his/her pocket.

I went to a Chiropractor once who told me of the benefits of Chiropractic Spinal Manipulation! He said he had a woman patient who could not get pregnant and after he gave her just one adjustment she was pregnant! I thought I better keep my eye on this guy until I get out of here and if I drop the ink pen I better kick it to the door !

thendrix wrote: "we're good"

Isn't it amazing how you think one minute and then think just the opposite the next!!  BUT,,,,,,,,,you can't have just two.  They fight amongst themselves and never get anywhere except making you mad.  With 3 or 5,,,,,,(might as well push) you've got two against one or what ever the 'odds' are.

I've got a cousin that has been married for 12 years.  They've NEVER had a child who wasn't in diapers.... Think about that, THAT'S TOO MANY......

DaveKamp wrote: I went through similar situation... both the physical challenge (she had endomitriosis AND a rather challenging heart condition).  Most of the problem was philosophy and attitude-  she spent more time counting days and marking a calendar, than doing what it takes to get pregnant.  After four years of trying (using HER methods), and having doctors tell her that the endomitriosis damage only gave her a 10% chance of ever HAVING a child, and a 0% chance of ever having more than one,  She basically gave up. I didn't.    I threw away her calendar, and she was pregnant two months later... and a healthy boy from it. Two years later, I suffered through the same process, and finally tore up her calendar, and a healthy girl appeared. Three times a month is NOT gonna do it... and if that's the most a relationship can offer, it's pretty clear that the relationship circumstances need serious reconsideration.

that was my conclusion also, not conceiving may be a blessing here. It certainly is not the biggest problem they have

DMiller wrote: She was pregnant from 19 to 27, nearly EVERY year had six beautiful children

I understand having six, but six every year for eight years?