New RANT

Wife is being dumb again.  We have a Grand Niece that has been living in Moscow Mills MO for a few Years, wife donates our stuff to her as if she is made of money giving me that "oh it was old(Less than five Years) and needed replacing, I gave to Brittany as she Needed it".  Not our Daughter, not even a grandchild but Sis In Law's Grandchild.  

Edited by DMiller - 13 Oct 2020 at 6:41am

She learned from her own Mom, our deceased nephew's Ex Wife.  She led the same basic lie of can beat the system if work it.  She has fled to FL with another Drug Head(She is one), will likely die there of a OD.

Edited by DMiller - 13 Oct 2020 at 7:37am

Sounds like anything you do for them is giving a drunk a drink. Choices have consequences and they should live with theirs. Nothing you do will fix it.

I set some boundaries this morning, IF they would accept the wife's invite.  Wife did not have to lay those out as they are moving, should have the Uhaul by Friday be on the road Sat**day and at Tucson AZ by Monday.

These two are headed into a Unknown, got to give credit for that, HOWEVER, is his Mom's town so they have a Safe Spot, low cost(Maybe) for a short time.  IIRC he had spoken of being a construction laborer previously and There so that may be where headed back into, not much life and layoffs abundant.

agree with all above

Similar situation with my niece. Boyfriend is from Chicago area and grew up in the projects. Employers “just don’t understand his needs “ so he can’t find a job that “fits his needs “ and has been unemployed for the last year. It was also unfair he couldn’t collect unemployment when the extra payments were added. She had $25000 saved up for a house and that is gone, found that out when she wrecked her car.

Anyways, one of her tires has a slow leak so they stop by repeatedly to use my air compressor. They suggested, and my wife agreed, why not give them the pass code to my shop so they don’t need to bother us when they need air. I said absolutely not!

iowallis wrote: Similar situation with my niece. Boyfriend is from Chicago area and grew up in the projects. Employers “just don’t understand his needs “ so he can’t find a job that “fits his needs “ and has been unemployed for the last year. It was also unfair he couldn’t collect unemployment when the extra payments were added. She had $25000 saved up for a house and that is gone, found that out when she wrecked her car. Anyways, one of her tires has a slow leak so they stop by repeatedly to use my air compressor. They suggested, and my wife agreed, why not give them the pass code to my shop so they don’t need to bother us when they need air. I said absolutely not!

steve(ill) wrote: why not give them the pass code to my shop so they don’t need to bother us when they need air. I said absolutely not

iowallis wrote: We had a discussion and she agreed probably not the best idea to give it to them. Not really worried about my niece or her boyfriend but his “friends “ if they happen to be with him when they stop by and see how to get in. Sad state of affairs when I am a “haves” and the “have nots” feel they should have some of my stuff. Not trying to get political but the niece said her boyfriend was heading to Minneapolis a few months ago to get what HE deserves because of his “suffering “. Whether he actually went I don’t know. Political rant over in case she see’s this and calls me racist like she has told other family members.

Edited by PaulB - 14 Oct 2020 at 4:42pm

I like the idea about the just enough for felony arrest.  But do not give him the pass code but install the cheapest lock you can find.  An interior one even... Then you can add B&E.  We say that but I do sympathize with all of you.  Seems the hand out crowd is bigger than the hand up.  I have no problem helping someone with a hand up.  Have done before.  But these feel more like the hand out type.

Sounds like my BILs daughter who got into drugs with her boyfriend. Police caught her and said she would be let go if she told them where he was. She said no. Convicted, 18 months in jail. Lost her kids. Now she is out, still on drugs and no custody or visitation of kids. These dang kids can't make a right decision if their life depended on it.

I can identify with you Dave. My wife is the youngest of 3. Her middle sister is responsible, went to Iowa like she did and has a job as an RN at a hospital in Des Moines. Their oldest sister is a professional leech. Missy went to one of those independent schools that any education you get won't transfer to a public university. Missy got an LPN and worked 6 months at a nursing home before she hurt her back and was off on work comp. Eventually work comp ended and she never went back to work. Years ago she ruined her credit so mom and dad bought her a house with the idea Missy would make the payments and when paid for it would be her house. That worked for a few years until their dad passed away. The house needed windows, siding, and a roof. Since Missy wasn't working, mom was paying the mortgage. Then mom started paying the utilities because Missy didn't have the money. When the water got shut off we found out Missy had used their dad's identity to get electricity and gas. Whenever she needed gas in the car, mom I need gas, mom I need to get my car fixed, mom I need money for _______. It came to a head when mom stopped by on a hot July day, the back door is standing open, the air was set on 65, and the flapper in the toilet had gone bad so the water is running 24/7. Mom finally grew a spine and we sold Missy's house and mom paid off the mortgage she had taken out on her fully paid for house to pay for windows, siding, a roof, and the student loans that Missy skipped out on. When we started cleaning up Missy's house for sale, we found out she had a bunch of homeless people living there with her, one of which was dealing we found out when the Central Iowa Drug Taskforce kicked in the front door and tore the place apart. Once the house was sold Missy took over her mom's 1 car garage and turned it into an apartment. Just one of those leeches that we just couldn't get rid of. Eventually mom came down with Alzheimer's and she moved in with their middle sister. All this time whenever Missy needed money she asked for mom's credit cards and picked her up to go to the bank to draw out money. Eventually the bank manager told middle sister that if Missy brought mom in again for cash, they were going to file elder abuse charges on Missy. Middle sister had POA and had the accounts changed to require her authorization for cash withdrawls so that stopped. Then she cancelled the credit cards so that stopped. When mom finally agreed that she wasn't going home and was staying with middle sister, we again had to kick Missy out. She said she would move, but she couldn't go to an apartment because she has a big dog. We found a few decent low priced mobile homes but those weren't acceptable. She came up with a 40' 5th wheel in a park that allowed year round living. Mom paid for the camper in August, but come January Missy had moved back in the house. Come to find out she hadn't been paying the lot rent and the RV park owners were looking for her to kick her out. The camper ended up in mom's driveway. As we were cleaning out mom's house to sell, Missy of course was doing anything she could to undermine the process. It finally came to a head and we gave her a hard deadline to be gone and take her hoard with her. That day came and she said she didn't have a place for the camper so we weren't moving it that day. We were ready for that and I said we have it approved to go to a storage lot. There were a couple places not too far that also took long term so the choice was hers. We got it moved on the Sat**day before the derecho, the house is sold and finally the leech has been removed.

Edited by Brian Jasper co. Ia - 16 Oct 2020 at 7:42pm

I see and hear the horror stories over and over, the damn media will not present it in a bad light of leeching off family so that continues until parents die off then the 'Kids' now over upper twenties become street leeches attempting to live off friends confidants or the Guv Teat.  Very sad that society leadership IE Teachers and schooling set this crap up all with the blessings of the Libretard Dems.